by Deborah Cox | Jun 27, 2020 | anger, cultural healing, dissociation, getting grounded, parenting, Reconceive, Relational Cultural Theory, Relationships, Uncategorized
Dissociation Makes for Scary Anger I know you: You don’t want to hurt anybody, ever. But you grew up around someone who behaved irresponsibly when they were angry. You’d prefer take it out on yourself than be anything like that person. That person showed scary anger...
by Deborah Cox | Jun 22, 2020 | anger, Anxiety & Calm, cultural healing, EMDR, Reconceive, Relational Cultural Theory, Relationships, Uncategorized
The heart wants to forgive. No matter the offense or the offender, we desire the release of letting it go. Our need to forgive is universal and I believe clear, grounded anger bridges us from hurt to forgiveness. In other words, when we feel angry with the other, we...
by Deborah Cox | Jun 20, 2020 | anger, cultural healing, dissociation, EMDR, Mood, Relationships
“Angry People” So here’s where anger gets really complicated. Not only do we dissociate in response to anger triggers when we fear being angry . . . we numb our anger based on heavy grooming that starts as soon as we’re born. My client, David (not his real name),...
by Deborah Cox | Jun 13, 2020 | anger, Becoming More of Your True Self, cultural healing, dissociation, EMDR, getting grounded, parenting, Reconceive, Relational Cultural Theory, Relationships
16 Anger Truths This list of anger truths comes from my own and other people’s research, as well as my nearly 30 years in the mental health industry. I’ll be back soon to discuss each item here. For today, I want to put the list in front of you. It matters...
by Deborah Cox | Jul 19, 2018 | Becoming More of Your True Self, Relational Cultural Theory, Relationships, Wife Material
Friends Who are Different and a Little Bit Scary Make Us Grow Unexpected friendship teaches us, like nothing else. When I arrived at Texas Woman’s University in 1990, I found myself immersed in growth and diversity. I suddenly had gay and lesbian friends, after...
by Deborah Cox | May 28, 2018 | Coaching For the Therapist, Connect, Feel Better, Relational Cultural Theory, Relationships, Therapy
How do you do it? . . . . . . People often say. How can a therapist sit with people who are in pain, hour after hour, day after day, and concentrate on how to help them feel better, while keeping themselves balanced? I usually say, “Tons of self care.” And...
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