by Deborah Cox | Aug 26, 2020 | anger, Becoming More of Your True Self, cultural healing, dissociation, getting grounded, Reconceive, Relationships, Uncategorized
Fear of Narcissism Yesterday, I talked with someone who is deathly afraid of her anger. She said, “If I allow myself to express anger, I’m afraid I’ll be a narcissist.” I worry about this, too. But our fear of narcissism comes from a fundamental misunderstanding. We...
by Deborah Cox | Aug 15, 2020 | anger, Anxiety & Calm, Becoming More of Your True Self, Coaching For the Therapist, cultural healing, dissociation, EMDR, Feel Better, getting grounded, Mood, Reconceive, Relational Cultural Theory, Relationships, Therapy, Uncategorized, Write and Heal
How does anger help us exit sick systems? Anger helps us exit sick systems. How? Anger allows information processing, because it is a part of the learning curve. So, let’s look at how anger facilitates timely exit when we need it. First, sick systems tend to have...
by Deborah Cox | Aug 3, 2020 | anger, Feel Better, Mood, parenting, Reconceive, Relationships, Uncategorized
Anger & Heart Health Let’s dive into how anger affects your heart health. Most people misunderstand the anger/health relationship, because most anger research we tend to hear about has focused on limited aspects. Just do a Google Scholar search and notice what you...
by Deborah Cox | Jun 27, 2020 | anger, cultural healing, dissociation, getting grounded, parenting, Reconceive, Relational Cultural Theory, Relationships, Uncategorized
Dissociation Makes for Scary Anger I know you: You don’t want to hurt anybody, ever. But you grew up around someone who behaved irresponsibly when they were angry. You’d prefer take it out on yourself than be anything like that person. That person showed scary anger...
by Deborah Cox | Jun 22, 2020 | anger, Anxiety & Calm, cultural healing, EMDR, Reconceive, Relational Cultural Theory, Relationships, Uncategorized
The heart wants to forgive. No matter the offense or the offender, we desire the release of letting it go. Our need to forgive is universal and I believe clear, grounded anger bridges us from hurt to forgiveness. In other words, when we feel angry with the other, we...
by Deborah Cox | Jun 20, 2020 | anger, cultural healing, dissociation, EMDR, Mood, Relationships
“Angry People” So here’s where anger gets really complicated. Not only do we dissociate in response to anger triggers when we fear being angry . . . we numb our anger based on heavy grooming that starts as soon as we’re born. My client, David (not his real name),...
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