by Deborah Cox | Sep 11, 2020 | anger, Becoming More of Your True Self, child maltreatment, cultural healing, dissociation, getting grounded, parenting, Reconceive, Relational Cultural Theory, Therapy, Uncategorized
Remember being angry as a child? Children’s anger deserves our attention. When I talk to adults about their childhood anger, they usually remember, but feel anxious talking about it. Sometimes they draw a complete blank. I definitely remember being angry as a...
by Deborah Cox | Sep 2, 2020 | anger, Anxiety & Calm, Becoming More of Your True Self, cultural healing, dissociation, EMDR, Feel Better, getting grounded, parenting, Reconceive, Relational Cultural Theory, Relationships, Uncategorized
When anger corrodes. Wait, does it? How can you tell when your anger morphs from a moment of clarity and self-protection to something else entirely? Anger has its destructive side . . . at least Ursula K. Le Guin believes it does. I reserve the right, at the end of...
by Deborah Cox | Aug 26, 2020 | anger, Becoming More of Your True Self, cultural healing, dissociation, getting grounded, Reconceive, Relationships, Uncategorized
Fear of Narcissism Yesterday, I talked with someone who is deathly afraid of her anger. She said, “If I allow myself to express anger, I’m afraid I’ll be a narcissist.” I worry about this, too. But our fear of narcissism comes from a fundamental misunderstanding. We...
by Deborah Cox | Aug 15, 2020 | anger, Anxiety & Calm, Becoming More of Your True Self, Coaching For the Therapist, cultural healing, dissociation, EMDR, Feel Better, getting grounded, Mood, Reconceive, Relational Cultural Theory, Relationships, Therapy, Uncategorized, Write and Heal
How does anger help us exit sick systems? Anger helps us exit sick systems. How? Anger allows information processing, because it is a part of the learning curve. So, let’s look at how anger facilitates timely exit when we need it. First, sick systems tend to have...
by Deborah Cox | Jul 24, 2020 | anger, Anxiety & Calm, cultural healing, EMDR, Feel Better, getting grounded, Mood, Reconceive, Therapy, Uncategorized
Deliberate, controlled anger work helps people de-stress and feel better, immediately. Anger De-Stress People are stressed out right now. They feel the stress of the pandemic and the seeming hopelessness of our political circus. I hear people say: I can’t...
by Deborah Cox | Jul 13, 2020 | anger, Becoming More of Your True Self, cultural healing, dissociation, getting grounded, Relational Cultural Theory, Uncategorized
Empathy+Anger=Empathic Anger Empathic anger rises up in us when we see someone else being mistreated and we feel outrage on their behalf. We want to defend the person, protect them. Mirror neurons make us naturals at feeling the pain of others. I remember this most...
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