by Deborah Cox | Aug 15, 2020 | anger, Anxiety & Calm, Becoming More of Your True Self, Coaching For the Therapist, cultural healing, dissociation, EMDR, Feel Better, getting grounded, Mood, Reconceive, Relational Cultural Theory, Relationships, Therapy, Uncategorized, Write and Heal
How does anger help us exit sick systems? Anger helps us exit sick systems. How? Anger allows information processing, because it is a part of the learning curve. So, let’s look at how anger facilitates timely exit when we need it. First, sick systems tend to have...
by Deborah Cox | Aug 3, 2020 | anger, Feel Better, Mood, parenting, Reconceive, Relationships, Uncategorized
Anger & Heart Health Let’s dive into how anger affects your heart health. Most people misunderstand the anger/health relationship, because most anger research we tend to hear about has focused on limited aspects. Just do a Google Scholar search and notice what you...
by Deborah Cox | Jul 24, 2020 | anger, Anxiety & Calm, cultural healing, EMDR, Feel Better, getting grounded, Mood, Reconceive, Therapy, Uncategorized
Deliberate, controlled anger work helps people de-stress and feel better, immediately. Anger De-Stress People are stressed out right now. They feel the stress of the pandemic and the seeming hopelessness of our political circus. I hear people say: I can’t...
by Deborah Cox | Jul 5, 2020 | anger, Becoming More of Your True Self, cultural healing, getting grounded, Mood, Reconceive, Relational Cultural Theory, Uncategorized
Selfish Anger? I recently saw a church flyer advertising its curriculum to help members deal with their anger. The minister quoted Frederick Buechner who called anger one of the seven deadly sins. “To lick your wounds, to smack your lips over grievances long past . ....
by Deborah Cox | Jun 29, 2020 | anger, Anxiety & Calm, Becoming More of Your True Self, dissociation, Feel Better, getting grounded, Mood, Reconceive, Therapy
But what if I’m just mad at myself? I nearly always get this question from my clients. Who are you most angry with? I ask. 75% of the time, the answer comes back: I feel anger at myself. Angry with myself for not knowing better Mad at myself for thinking I could...
by Deborah Cox | Jun 20, 2020 | anger, cultural healing, dissociation, EMDR, Mood, Relationships
“Angry People” So here’s where anger gets really complicated. Not only do we dissociate in response to anger triggers when we fear being angry . . . we numb our anger based on heavy grooming that starts as soon as we’re born. My client, David (not his real name),...
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