by Deborah Cox | Aug 15, 2020 | anger, Anxiety & Calm, Becoming More of Your True Self, Coaching For the Therapist, cultural healing, dissociation, EMDR, Feel Better, getting grounded, Mood, Reconceive, Relational Cultural Theory, Relationships, Therapy, Uncategorized, Write and Heal
How does anger help us exit sick systems? Anger helps us exit sick systems. How? Anger allows information processing, because it is a part of the learning curve. So, let’s look at how anger facilitates timely exit when we need it. First, sick systems tend to have...
by Deborah Cox | Aug 7, 2020 | anger, cultural healing, Reconceive, Relational Cultural Theory, Uncategorized
What is Cultural Narcissism? Before we talk about White anger, we have to address cultural narcissism. Cultural narcissism, according to George Simon, includes all the ways a group or society tolerates, encourages, and promotes traits like: Excessive striving for...
by Deborah Cox | Aug 5, 2020 | anger, child maltreatment, cultural healing, parenting, Reconceive, Relational Cultural Theory, Uncategorized
Bad Parenting and Misdirected Anger When I look at the global trend toward authoritarianism and fascism, I feel sick. Actually, I feel pissed. Did we learn nothing from the past hundred years? How do the most insecure, least competent, people come into such global...
by Deborah Cox | Jul 13, 2020 | anger, Becoming More of Your True Self, cultural healing, dissociation, getting grounded, Relational Cultural Theory, Uncategorized
Empathy+Anger=Empathic Anger Empathic anger rises up in us when we see someone else being mistreated and we feel outrage on their behalf. We want to defend the person, protect them. Mirror neurons make us naturals at feeling the pain of others. I remember this most...
by Deborah Cox | Jul 5, 2020 | anger, Becoming More of Your True Self, cultural healing, getting grounded, Mood, Reconceive, Relational Cultural Theory, Uncategorized
Selfish Anger? I recently saw a church flyer advertising its curriculum to help members deal with their anger. The minister quoted Frederick Buechner who called anger one of the seven deadly sins. “To lick your wounds, to smack your lips over grievances long past . ....
by Deborah Cox | Jun 27, 2020 | anger, cultural healing, dissociation, getting grounded, parenting, Reconceive, Relational Cultural Theory, Relationships, Uncategorized
Dissociation Makes for Scary Anger I know you: You don’t want to hurt anybody, ever. But you grew up around someone who behaved irresponsibly when they were angry. You’d prefer take it out on yourself than be anything like that person. That person showed scary anger...
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