by Deborah Cox | Jul 1, 2020 | anger, Anxiety & Calm, dissociation, Feel Better, getting grounded, Uncategorized
Getting Physical with Anger (in a good way) In my last post, I introduced physical anger work as a tool for getting grounded. I gave instructions on how to deliberately release anger in a time-limited way using props, such as a punching bag or pile of cushions, a bat,...
by Deborah Cox | Jun 27, 2020 | anger, cultural healing, dissociation, getting grounded, parenting, Reconceive, Relational Cultural Theory, Relationships, Uncategorized
Dissociation Makes for Scary Anger I know you: You don’t want to hurt anybody, ever. But you grew up around someone who behaved irresponsibly when they were angry. You’d prefer take it out on yourself than be anything like that person. That person showed scary anger...
by Deborah Cox | Jun 25, 2020 | Uncategorized
Dominance and Whiteness Twenty years ago, I had an experience that demonstrates anger grooming, gender, and power in conservative White U.S. culture. I taught a required diversity course to graduate counseling students, right here at Missouri State. One week, I...
by Deborah Cox | Jun 22, 2020 | anger, Anxiety & Calm, cultural healing, EMDR, Reconceive, Relational Cultural Theory, Relationships, Uncategorized
The heart wants to forgive. No matter the offense or the offender, we desire the release of letting it go. Our need to forgive is universal and I believe clear, grounded anger bridges us from hurt to forgiveness. In other words, when we feel angry with the other, we...
by Deborah Cox | Jun 18, 2020 | anger, dissociation, getting grounded, Reconceive, Uncategorized
What Dissociation Looks Like Let’s look at dissociation and how it relates to anger. We know that anger can be either grounded or dissociated. In other words, I stay connected to the present moment, my senses engaged, and feel angry . . . or I lose that present moment...
by Deborah Cox | Jun 15, 2020 | anger, Reconceive, Relational Cultural Theory, Uncategorized, Write and Heal
Anger Wisdom Means Knowing Our Triggers Here’s the beginning of one of my big anger triggers. When I was eleven, a younger kid who came to our house for violin lessons wanted to feed my little red swordfish. I warned him not to add any flakes because I’d just...
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