by Deborah Cox | Sep 17, 2020 | anger, Becoming More of Your True Self, cultural healing, Feel Better, parenting, Relational Cultural Theory, Relationships, Uncategorized
How does anger help with compassion? Yesterday I talked with a friend who grasped, for the first time, how a family member had emotionally abused her. In about five minutes, she went from confused and ashamed . . . to angry, as she pieced together an incident in which...
by Deborah Cox | Sep 11, 2020 | anger, Becoming More of Your True Self, child maltreatment, cultural healing, dissociation, getting grounded, parenting, Reconceive, Relational Cultural Theory, Therapy, Uncategorized
Remember being angry as a child? Children’s anger deserves our attention. When I talk to adults about their childhood anger, they usually remember, but feel anxious talking about it. Sometimes they draw a complete blank. I definitely remember being angry as a...
by Deborah Cox | Sep 2, 2020 | anger, Anxiety & Calm, Becoming More of Your True Self, cultural healing, dissociation, EMDR, Feel Better, getting grounded, parenting, Reconceive, Relational Cultural Theory, Relationships, Uncategorized
When anger corrodes. Wait, does it? How can you tell when your anger morphs from a moment of clarity and self-protection to something else entirely? Anger has its destructive side . . . at least Ursula K. Le Guin believes it does. I reserve the right, at the end of...
by Deborah Cox | Aug 26, 2020 | anger, Becoming More of Your True Self, cultural healing, dissociation, getting grounded, Reconceive, Relationships, Uncategorized
Fear of Narcissism Yesterday, I talked with someone who is deathly afraid of her anger. She said, “If I allow myself to express anger, I’m afraid I’ll be a narcissist.” I worry about this, too. But our fear of narcissism comes from a fundamental misunderstanding. We...
by Deborah Cox | Aug 23, 2020 | anger, Becoming More of Your True Self, cultural healing, Reconceive, Relational Cultural Theory, Uncategorized, Wife Material
The Political is Personal The other night, I listened to Michelle Obama’s speech for the DNC, and I had a curious reaction. I felt so glad to see her, and at the same time, resentment. Everything she said made me cheer on one level; but on another level, feel...
by Deborah Cox | Aug 15, 2020 | anger, Anxiety & Calm, Becoming More of Your True Self, Coaching For the Therapist, cultural healing, dissociation, EMDR, Feel Better, getting grounded, Mood, Reconceive, Relational Cultural Theory, Relationships, Therapy, Uncategorized, Write and Heal
How does anger help us exit sick systems? Anger helps us exit sick systems. How? Anger allows information processing, because it is a part of the learning curve. So, let’s look at how anger facilitates timely exit when we need it. First, sick systems tend to have...
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