by Deborah Cox | Jul 13, 2020 | anger, Becoming More of Your True Self, cultural healing, dissociation, getting grounded, Relational Cultural Theory, Uncategorized
Empathy+Anger=Empathic Anger Empathic anger rises up in us when we see someone else being mistreated and we feel outrage on their behalf. We want to defend the person, protect them. Mirror neurons make us naturals at feeling the pain of others. I remember this most...
by Deborah Cox | Jan 26, 2017 | Becoming More of Your True Self, child maltreatment, Therapy, Women, Write and Heal
Lies often come from authority-figures. When I was growing up, preachers told the story of Abraham and Isaac: the one about how Abraham takes his child to a mountaintop and prepares to stab him to death as a sacrifice to God (whose ego must have been puny).Every time...
by Deborah Cox | Aug 22, 2016 | Mood
I believe you. I think it’s important for you to know that. When someone’s taking you seriously, you stay more awake to your observations. Sometimes we knock down the disturbing ones, like a kid playing Whack-a-Mole. We fear a dawning realization. We don’t...
by Deborah Cox | May 31, 2016 | Mood
Several months ago, I wrote about dissociation, or being tranced-out. Trance feels like confusion or sleepiness and it blocks our energy in relationships. Trance envelopes us when we can’t make sense of the mixed information we’re receiving inside our relational...
by Deborah Cox | May 7, 2016 | Mood
I’ve been watching people turn into zombies all week in couples therapy. One woman said, I shut myself down so I won’t have to strangle him! Trance-induction is complicated. It robs us of moments, but it helps us avoid feelings we don’t want to have....
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