by Deborah Cox | Jun 2, 2016 | Mood
I’m a Failure. If I weren’t so lazy, I’d be more financially stable. If I was a better daughter, my parents would still be together. If I were thinner, my husband would have sex with me. If I weren’t so angry, I’d have friends. If I’d worked harder in my 20s,...
by Deborah Cox | Apr 25, 2016 | Becoming More of Your True Self, EMDR, Therapy, Write and Heal
My clients report LOTS of guilt. Guilt over everything . . . being a rebellious teen (thirty years ago) . . . failing to protect their children from unforeseen tragedies . . . eating desserts . . . not living up to their potential . . . breaking someone’s heart...
by Deborah Cox | Dec 12, 2015 | Anxiety & Calm, Becoming More of Your True Self, EMDR, Relax. You're normal., Therapy
Something tells me I’m a very bad person. Under the bridge…..beneath, “It’s my fault,” lives a more troubling idea…It hides in us like a troll under a bridge. Anyone who’s survived religious abuse knows the old thought-training dies...
by Deborah Cox | Dec 2, 2015 | Becoming More of Your True Self, Connect, EMDR, Mood, Relationships, Therapy
“It Must be My Fault” Beth gets the guilt like a reflex if anything goes wrong…..Especially if it involves her partner or her kids. “If Stuart’s in a bad mood, I assume it has something to do with me.” She feels responsible for her divorce. “If I had been calmer and...
by Deborah Cox | Sep 25, 2014 | Mood, Relationships
Max says, “I need to get help or I’m going to lose my family.” Max feels like a failure as a mate and as a father. At age 45, he works 60 hours a week to provide his family’s comfortable lifestyle. He coaches kids’ soccer teams. He takes...
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