by Deborah Cox | Jan 4, 2016 | Becoming More of Your True Self, Coaching For the Therapist, EMDR, Relationships
I have trouble letting go. Mostly when it comes to saying goodbye to unbalanced relationships. You know, the kind where you feel you should be helpful but no amount of help seems to make a difference? So here are some thoughts about change and letting go of what no...
by Deborah Cox | Dec 30, 2015 | Anxiety & Calm, Becoming More of Your True Self, child maltreatment, parenting, Relationships, Therapy
Hands are Not for Hitting (and not for Shoving, Slapping, Swatting, Pinching, Jerking, or “Spanking”). We read this book to my son when he was three. Hands help and love and wave goodbye. Hands paint and cook and communicate. But some adults still use...
by Deborah Cox | Dec 2, 2015 | Becoming More of Your True Self, Connect, EMDR, Mood, Relationships, Therapy
“It Must be My Fault” Beth gets the guilt like a reflex if anything goes wrong…..Especially if it involves her partner or her kids. “If Stuart’s in a bad mood, I assume it has something to do with me.” She feels responsible for her divorce. “If I had been calmer and...
by Deborah Cox | Nov 23, 2015 | Becoming More of Your True Self, Connect, Mood, Relationships, Therapy
Every time I see you, I say a little prayer of thanks that you’re in my life. You help me more than you know. I’m thankful….. …..for the new ideas you bring to me. …..for your smiling eyes that greet me even though your heart is full of pain. …..for your honesty that...
by Deborah Cox | Sep 29, 2015 | Relationships, Therapy
Dissociation takes us out of the moment. Yesterday, I stood in the MSU music building while my son warmed up for a violin performance. All around me, young pianists and violinists practiced their Chopin, their Mozart, in separate cubicles, getting ready to play for a...
by Deborah Cox | Jul 21, 2015 | EMDR, Relationships
Passion, Distraction, and Relationship Repair: A Short Story A couple sits in my office during a marriage therapy session, both partners furious with each other, helpless, unable to budge, contemplating separation. The issue: Do you love me enough to _____? One says,...
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