Our Flaws Make Us Interesting: EMDR Makes Them Funny

Maybe our flaws even make us lovable. My Flaws I have a few characteristics of which I’m not proud. Most of them fall into the category of "uptightness" . . . fear and shame and rigidity. Before EMDR, I would not have written this post for fear of public ridicule. First, I have this judgmental … Continue reading Our Flaws Make Us Interesting: EMDR Makes Them Funny

“I’m unattractive & I Don’t Deserve Love”: Change Negative Beliefs with EMDR

I have a few Negative Beliefs . . . I did some dumb things in my teens. I backed the family car out of the driveway, into our neighbor’s car (which had exited his driveway a second ahead of mine). I waited tables at a church banquet and spilled iced tea down the back of … Continue reading “I’m unattractive & I Don’t Deserve Love”: Change Negative Beliefs with EMDR

EMDR, Worry, & Letting Go

Holding On & Letting Go You know, that feeling where you remind yourself to worry? Lately, I catch myself holding certain issues with a death grip; things I can’t control. My loved-one’s health habits. The world’s poverty and greed. Our mass addictions to technology. Someone else’s parenting failures. My child’s future direction. I catch myself … Continue reading EMDR, Worry, & Letting Go

Be More Self-Centered and Save the World

What does it mean to be self centered? Your Self is your wise spiritual center. But outside this center, we live under a weighted blanket of stress and uncertainty, threatened by darkness and greed from all angles. We feel disconnected from neighbors and afraid of people on the other side of the philosophical aisle. 18% … Continue reading Be More Self-Centered and Save the World

Deepening our Relationships by Letting People Know Us

Yesterday, I had a conversation with friends about how we become known inside our relationships. Where and with whom can we be truly ourselves? How much do we share? What parts of ourselves do we keep hidden? Loneliness and social isolation pose serious health risks. So the question of how we share with the people around … Continue reading Deepening our Relationships by Letting People Know Us

Find Your G-Spot: Healthy versus Coercive Guilt

  My clients report LOTS of guilt. Guilt over everything . . . being a rebellious teen (thirty years ago) . . . failing to protect their children from unforeseen tragedies . . . eating desserts . . . not living up to their potential . . . breaking someone’s heart . . . flying … Continue reading Find Your G-Spot: Healthy versus Coercive Guilt

How Exercise, Story, and EMDR Heal Trauma

You have a story to tell (and it lives in your body.) As you know, I recommend writing as a way of healing. When we write story, we turn pain into beauty, even if we’re spinning complete fiction. Writing forces us to transform bits of disconnected ideas, pictures, sensations, and memories into episodic memory. When … Continue reading How Exercise, Story, and EMDR Heal Trauma

Investment in Healing: Why Pay for Therapy?

Hello, I think I need some therapy..... How much does it cost? When can I expect to feel better?....... Will I need therapy for a year? Three years?....... Why won't you take my insurance?............ Investment in my health?????  We call in distress, needing help now. Yet, we worry about the time and expense of therapy … Continue reading Investment in Healing: Why Pay for Therapy?

EMDR can help you Achieve: Be a better athlete, singer, or cowgirl.

We all want to achieve something. When I was eight, I wanted to be a cowgirl. This never happened, but if it had, I imagine EMDR would help me achieve my team roping goals and stay fit for the arena. EMDR therapy helps people recover from trauma, relationship stress, and all kinds of anxiety. But … Continue reading EMDR can help you Achieve: Be a better athlete, singer, or cowgirl.

It Must be My Fault

“It Must be My Fault” Beth gets the guilt like a reflex if anything goes wrong…..Especially if it involves her partner or her kids. “If Stuart’s in a bad mood, I assume it has something to do with me.” She feels responsible for her divorce. “If I had been calmer and less upset, we might … Continue reading It Must be My Fault