How do we turn religious trauma into deep emotional healing?
Religious trauma happens most often in movements that are fundamentalist in nature – or, “Strong Religion.” In my practice, I see adults who grew up scared of sinning and going to hell or disappointing God or being shunned for some infraction or bad thought. I call this early spiritual abuse and it affects every part of life . . . especially our relationships.
If you were raised in a movement that was fundamentalist or evangelical in nature, you probably experienced religious trauma . . . even if you don’t think of yourself as wounded or traumatized . . .
. . . and especially if you’re a woman.
Religious trauma occurs when a tradition, doctrine, or group . . .
- emphasizes the person’s inherent wrongness, sinfulness, or unworthiness
- focuses on controlling people’s sexuality
- teaches a literal hell or other kind of severe outcome that a deity will use to punish people who don’t follow particular creeds
- focuses on controlling people’s thoughts or emotions
- teaches the domination of one gender or cultural group and the subordination of another (no matter how benevolently described)
- teaches a person must follow a set of behavioral prescriptions or rituals in order to avoid condemnation by a higher power
- excommunicates, dis-fellowships, or shuns people for failure to adhere to some set of behavioral standards.
If your childhood religion did any of these things, you probably experienced some form of spiritual abuse. Some would say that just growing up with the teaching of these ideas constitutes spiritual wounding . . . trauma to your spiritual self.
For more in-depth consideration of spiritual wounding, this article by Edward Kruk highlights earlier thoughts of Simone Weil on spiritual affliction as a form of slavery. More on this to come . . .
Replacing Old with New
This summer, let’s talk about transformation. We need real ideas for how to replace unhealthy old teachings (that got under our skin) with practices that promote healing, love, and peace . . . in other words, soul growth. Here’s a preliminary list. I’ll be back with more on each item in this list.
- diverse friendships
- energy work
- trauma therapy
- body work
- reading good fiction
Again, please write with your ideas, suggestions, and stories. My novel, Wife Material, is based on my story.