EMDR Therapy
EMDR (eye-movement desensitization and reprocessing) therapy focuses on trauma. Developed in the late 1980s, EMDR uses bilateral stimulation (like eye movements, auditory tones, or tactile pulses) to help the nervous system integrate and metabolize lots of information very quickly. In essence, it jump-starts your brain, and entire body really, to stitch together many, many fragmented pieces of trauma memory.
Why does this help?
First, disturbing things happen to all of us. We don’t always think we’ve been traumatized – in fact, we often downplay our feelings about negative events. But if something sticks with us, triggers negative beliefs about ourselves (e.g., “I’m a failure”), there’s some level of trauma there. But that sort of memory (e.g., “what happened that night”) doesn’t always get stored like everyday memory. It’s often splattered throughout the nervous system in the form of anxiety, anger, shame, and thoughts about ourselves that feel miserable.
EMDR takes these splattered bits of memory and pulls them into a coherent whole. Quickly . . . Sometimes before a client even realizes it. When bits of trauma, like thoughts and emotions, are integrated in this way, they lose their power to make us panic or hate ourselves – the anxiety drops out of them and the memories can simply be filed away.
EMDR is a whole-body process, yet is non-invasive and gentle. And EMDR can be used to treat everything from panic attacks to relationship problems. I even use it to help students, professionals, and artists do better at the things they love to do.
EMDR THERAPY BLOGS
I Must be a Bad Person: Recovering from Religious Abuse
Something tells me I'm a very bad person. Under the bridge.....beneath, “It’s my fault,” lives a more troubling idea...It hides in us like a troll under a bridge. Anyone who's survived religious abuse knows the old thought-training dies hard. Jim teaches art to...
It Must be My Fault
“It Must be My Fault” Beth gets the guilt like a reflex if anything goes wrong…..Especially if it involves her partner or her kids. “If Stuart’s in a bad mood, I assume it has something to do with me.” She feels responsible for her divorce. “If I had been calmer and...
How can I tell if my relationship is abusive…And what to do about it?
Is my relationship abusive? We all behave badly at times. We all stumble into feelings of frantic need or despair. We all say things we totally regret later: we yell, we drop F-bombs, turn our backs, and give the silent treatment. And we usually feel terrible when the...
How to Find Inner Peace after Relationship Trauma: EMDR and Spiritual Development
When I was a psychologist-in-training, I saw lots of people who had panic attacks – and I had no idea how to help them. My supervisor, Dr. Maryanne Watson, always asked me, “Who is she most angry with?” Then I ran back to my client and asked the question. Without...
What is EMDR Therapy and how can it change your life?
Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing can change your life. It's not as complicated as it sounds, but it is a leading methodology for individuals to overcome past trauma and better connect with their present lives. If you were ever mistreated as a child;...
A short story about how EMDR feels during marriage counseling
Passion, Distraction, and Relationship Repair: A Short Story A couple sits in my office during a marriage therapy session, both partners furious with each other, helpless, unable to budge, contemplating separation. The issue: Do you love me enough to _____? One says,...
Marriage Therapy: How Stomping the Eggshells Will Help You Connect
Marital Misbehavior #276: Stomp the Eggshells Why do we walk on them anyway? We don't want to hurt each other. We fear we'll make a mess if we say it straight. We fear our partner's anger. Someone taught us: if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all....
Stages of Spiritual Development: Overcoming Anxious Perfectionism
Anxious perfectionism sounds like this: I’m not a good writer, so I never write. I can't leave this job because... I dress to hide my thighs. My mom expects me to be there, so... If I said what I really think, I would go to hell. God expects me to... I can’t believe I...
How Can EMDR Therapy Heal Disconnection?
Read this if you feel isolated or anxious. You are not alone. It's still true . . . Disconnection feels like I'm drowning. But when I give myself plenty of care (EMDR therapy, exercise, sleep, meditation, music), extraordinary allies pop into my life from out of...
How EMDR Therapy can help you have a great garage sale
Misbehavior #373: The Soul of Downsizing (Or, I bet you didn't realize a garage sale would help cure your anxiety). People in trauma recovery do amazingly similar things as they start getting well. They: think of creative projects and make more use of their five...
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