Parenting Lesson #5093: Less is More and Letting Go

  Mindful Parenting of Teens = Letting Go If you have a child over the age of ten, you may already know this. So good for you. My friends with much older kids told me this years ago and I didn't want to hear it.                     … Continue reading Parenting Lesson #5093: Less is More and Letting Go

Leadership Monologues: Take Back the L Word

Leadership (said with a sneer) I hate the word, “Leader.” It’s lost every shred of meaning it once held for me. Leadership once meant authority and concern for the welfare of everyone in its reach. Now it sounds like a fake word with fake facts to support its nothingness. A poser, posing as a real … Continue reading Leadership Monologues: Take Back the L Word

Loathing, Lust, & Longing: Why We Obsess so Much

My son amazes me. He has his obsessions, but they're about his music, his philosophizing. He’s so different from the adolescent me of thirty-five years ago. He’s calmer and freer to learn. He’s funny, and takes creative risks with language. He accepts people with all their weirdness. At his age, I worried a lot. I … Continue reading Loathing, Lust, & Longing: Why We Obsess so Much

Hands are Not for Hitting: Let’s End Corporal Punishment

Hands are Not for Hitting (and not for Shoving, Slapping, Swatting, Pinching, Jerking, or "Spanking"). We read this book to my son when he was three. Hands help and love and wave goodbye. Hands paint and cook and communicate. But some adults still use their hands for corporal punishment of children. Maybe you know someone … Continue reading Hands are Not for Hitting: Let’s End Corporal Punishment

The Submissive Wife: How This Role Damages Boys (and Girls)

How do I keep my son from growing up to be a jerk? How do I help him become egalitarian?  Great question: How do we raise boys to share power in relationships? The answer lies in your willingness to share power in your own relationships. The "submissive wife" sounds like the title of a porn movie … Continue reading The Submissive Wife: How This Role Damages Boys (and Girls)