Lessons in Relational Justice, I

What is Relational Justice? I just watched Michael Moore’s (2016) film, Where to Invade Next. It's all about Relational Justice. In the two-hour movie, Moore visits eight countries to steal good ideas and bring them back to the U.S. He also raises some questions that have been with me all day. What caused our country … Continue reading Lessons in Relational Justice, I

Ready to Receive: A Valentine’s Mindset

I just learned something: getting more of what we want happens when we shift into the right mindset to receive . . . Receiving Mode. We want intimacy, creativity, close friendships, satisfying work, a healthy family . . . a healthy community, nation, and world. Receiving Mode allows us to draw the right people, situations, … Continue reading Ready to Receive: A Valentine’s Mindset

Political Despair? Focus on the Journey.

You’re safe. I’m writing to you: my Republican and Democrat and Independent friends . . . my companions on this journey. A series of conversations yesterday made me realize: We’re all stressed by the changes . . . yes, all of us. If you lean to the right . . . you see masses protesting … Continue reading Political Despair? Focus on the Journey.

Notice Body-Mind Connections and Heal from Trauma

I used to fall a lot. On the sidewalk. In my yard. Up a flight of marble stairs. About seven years ago, after a string of bizarre falls where I ended up with scars on my shins and a pulled muscle in my back, I followed the trail of breadcrumbs and made a body-mind connection. … Continue reading Notice Body-Mind Connections and Heal from Trauma

Relationship Disconnect: How it affects our health.

Everyone I love needs to read these four books. The Birth of Pleasure, Carol Gilligan The Artist’s Way, Julia Cameron Proof of Heaven, Eben Alexander How Connections Heal, Maureen Walker & Wendy Rosen (Eds.) These books have all changed my life. But today, I want to focus on #4. How Connections Heal is written for … Continue reading Relationship Disconnect: How it affects our health.

Zombies in Relationship: Identify Feelings and Come Out of the Trance

Several months ago, I wrote about dissociation, or being tranced-out. Trance feels like confusion or sleepiness and it blocks our energy in relationships. Trance envelopes us when we can’t make sense of the mixed information we’re receiving inside our relational space. It paralyzes us into inaction. Am I crazy? Am I paranoid? Did I imagine … Continue reading Zombies in Relationship: Identify Feelings and Come Out of the Trance

A Conversation about I and Thou

Remember the last time you worked a concession stand? You wore your team’s t-shirt and took money and gave out candy bars? Remember how odd it felt when people handed you their dollar bills without any eye contact? Like you’re the generic concession-stand-worker-dad/mom-body-who-distributes-Pepsi-and-doesn’t-exist-when-I-walk-away? Sometimes I feel like a thing, instead of a person. A woman. … Continue reading A Conversation about I and Thou

Snap out of Trance and De-Zombie-fy (I & Thou, part 2)

I've been watching people turn into zombies all week in couples therapy. One woman said, I shut myself down so I won't have to strangle him! Trance-induction is complicated. It robs us of moments, but it helps us avoid feelings we don't want to have. And sometimes it keeps us from committing homicide. Why do we … Continue reading Snap out of Trance and De-Zombie-fy (I & Thou, part 2)

No Judgment Here: 10 Things I Love about Group Fitness

  No Judgment...but lots of Very Cool Surprises. Group fitness bears a huge resemblance to group therapy. Who knew? I did not. But doing group fitness at The Bodysmith has changed my life and now I can’t stop talking about it. It helps me recover more quickly from setbacks. It places my fitness in a … Continue reading No Judgment Here: 10 Things I Love about Group Fitness

Investment in Healing: Why Pay for Therapy?

Hello, I think I need some therapy..... How much does it cost? When can I expect to feel better?....... Will I need therapy for a year? Three years?....... Why won't you take my insurance?............ Investment in my health?????  We call in distress, needing help now. Yet, we worry about the time and expense of therapy … Continue reading Investment in Healing: Why Pay for Therapy?