Wife Material

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Wife Material blends religious abuse and sexual repression in a coming-of-age story about the modern Church of Christ denomination.

The author grew up in the flagship Church of Christ college community, Harding University, in the heartland of the Protestant Restoration movement.

Wife Material tells the story of Elizabeth Campbell, raised in a similar place and time. Elizabeth’s parents are violinists. Her father seems gay. Their church disallows musical instruments and homosexuality. Lizzie succumbs to the twisted violence in her family and the pressure for early marriage at Waltham University, where suicides abound. Then, she escapes fundamentalism through a series of liberating sins.

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