Our Flaws Make Us Interesting: EMDR Makes Them Funny

Maybe our flaws even make us lovable. My Flaws I have a few characteristics of which I’m not proud. Most of them fall into the category of "uptightness" . . . fear and shame and rigidity. Before EMDR, I would not have written this post for fear of public ridicule. First, I have this judgmental … Continue reading Our Flaws Make Us Interesting: EMDR Makes Them Funny

Why do I want this? Skip resolutions and Go Deep instead.

My Bodysmith friends and I have been asking ourselves: Do we even want to make resolutions for 2017? Does it make sense to replay the same self-assignments, year after year? The question makes sense if you think about how New Year’s resolutions have evolved over time. From ancient Babylonia to our present civilization, people tend … Continue reading Why do I want this? Skip resolutions and Go Deep instead.

Transform Holiday Stress into Mindful Rest & Giving

Until recently, I resented the holidays. As in, Already???? We just did this, right? Except the years when my son believed in Santa and we put together tricycles and trains, after his bedtime, under the synthetic Douglas Fir, I got a sinking anxious dread just before Thanksgiving that let up after January first. Holiday stress separated … Continue reading Transform Holiday Stress into Mindful Rest & Giving

Relationship Disconnect: How it affects our health.

Everyone I love needs to read these four books. The Birth of Pleasure, Carol Gilligan The Artist’s Way, Julia Cameron Proof of Heaven, Eben Alexander How Connections Heal, Maureen Walker & Wendy Rosen (Eds.) These books have all changed my life. But today, I want to focus on #4. How Connections Heal is written for … Continue reading Relationship Disconnect: How it affects our health.

No Judgment Here: 10 Things I Love about Group Fitness

  No Judgment...but lots of Very Cool Surprises. Group fitness bears a huge resemblance to group therapy. Who knew? I did not. But doing group fitness at The Bodysmith has changed my life and now I can’t stop talking about it. It helps me recover more quickly from setbacks. It places my fitness in a … Continue reading No Judgment Here: 10 Things I Love about Group Fitness

I Must be a Bad Person: Recovering from Religious Abuse

Something tells me I'm a very bad person.   Under the bridge.....beneath, “It’s my fault,” lives a more troubling idea...It hides in us like a troll under a bridge. Anyone who's survived religious abuse knows the old thought-training dies hard. Jim teaches art to high-schoolers. He lives with his wife of thirty years – the … Continue reading I Must be a Bad Person: Recovering from Religious Abuse

The Life Cycle of Long-Term Love . . . Or the Many Major Traumas of Life Partnership

“Where did I go wrong?” Says the woman across from me, her husband’s chair, the third point in our triangle. “I mean, at what point did I screw up so badly that my marriage turned into a roommate situation.”