Religious Trauma into Soul Healing, Part VI: Reading Good Fiction

  Lift Up & Away from Religious  Trauma Fiction (and memoir) reorganizes our internal narratives, and allows us to try on the emotional resources of others. It does this, not by selling us products or threatening us with what we MUST-do-or-be-damned, but by showing other worlds, inviting imagination. As we recover from spiritual abuse and … Continue reading Religious Trauma into Soul Healing, Part VI: Reading Good Fiction

Religious Trauma into Soul Healing, Part V: Energetic Healing

Energetic Healing = Body + Energy + Trauma Therapy As a psychology student in the 90s, I heard the message: Don't mess with spirituality. We can't measure it. It's private.  But now, a tsunami of change is sweeping the therapy world . . . and this change is spiritual. Recovering from religious abuse, we need … Continue reading Religious Trauma into Soul Healing, Part V: Energetic Healing

Moving from Religious Trauma into Soul Healing, Part III: Beauty

Never lose an opportunity of seeing something beautiful, for beauty is God's handwriting.      -Ralph Waldo Emerson   Beauty is the basis of my spiritual discovery process. I found the Anglican church on a trip to England, back in '07, a time of big transition. My then six-year-old and I visited St. Martin in … Continue reading Moving from Religious Trauma into Soul Healing, Part III: Beauty

Moving from Religious Trauma into Soul Healing, Part II: Meditation

  What is Meditation? Meditation trains our minds to focus on the present moment, to be aware of our thoughts and feelings, and to observe our whole experience in a mindful way. It's any practice that fosters mindfulness. I've practiced daily meditation for the last year and a half, and it's changed me. In fact, I … Continue reading Moving from Religious Trauma into Soul Healing, Part II: Meditation

Every Therapist Needs a Tribe

How do you do it? . . . . . . People often say. How can a therapist sit with people who are in pain, hour after hour, day after day, and concentrate on how to help them feel better, while keeping themselves balanced? I usually say, "Tons of self care." And that's true. To … Continue reading Every Therapist Needs a Tribe

Our Flaws Make Us Interesting: EMDR Makes Them Funny

Maybe our flaws even make us lovable. My Flaws I have a few characteristics of which I’m not proud. Most of them fall into the category of "uptightness" . . . fear and shame and rigidity. Before EMDR, I would not have written this post for fear of public ridicule. First, I have this judgmental … Continue reading Our Flaws Make Us Interesting: EMDR Makes Them Funny

Still Recovering from Toxic Religion: Pass That Buick in Love

Here's a story about being inspired and suppressing it. This morning I got behind a slow-moving Buick on a major thoroughfare. I encountered the same dark green Buick, ten minutes before, when I was crossing a downtown street. On foot, I got up close and looked inside at three senior women - all probably in … Continue reading Still Recovering from Toxic Religion: Pass That Buick in Love

Listen to ReConceive: a Healing Podcast

  ReConceive: a Podcast about All Kinds of Healing My dear friend, Melissa Sundwall, a great therapist who also happens to be a lot younger than me, says: “Let’s do a podcast.” And I say, “What’s a podcast?” That literally happened. About a year ago. So we teamed up with Shauna Smith-Yates, owner of The … Continue reading Listen to ReConceive: a Healing Podcast

Joy Lessons from my 5-year-old Niece

Lessons from Linde I recently took a road trip with my sister and her kids. While we drove and swam and hiked and visited, I got a good dose of anti-depressant wisdom from my five-year-old niece. Linde inspires me because she is full of joy and incredibly herself: no apologies, no pretense, no matter what's … Continue reading Joy Lessons from my 5-year-old Niece

“I’m unattractive & I Don’t Deserve Love”: Change Negative Beliefs with EMDR

I have a few Negative Beliefs . . . I did some dumb things in my teens. I backed the family car out of the driveway, into our neighbor’s car (which had exited his driveway a second ahead of mine). I waited tables at a church banquet and spilled iced tea down the back of … Continue reading “I’m unattractive & I Don’t Deserve Love”: Change Negative Beliefs with EMDR