Moving from Religious Trauma into Soul Healing, Part II: Meditation

  What is Meditation? Meditation trains our minds to focus on the present moment, to be aware of our thoughts and feelings, and to observe our whole experience in a mindful way. It's any practice that fosters mindfulness. I've practiced daily meditation for the last year and a half, and it's changed me. In fact, I … Continue reading Moving from Religious Trauma into Soul Healing, Part II: Meditation

“I’m unattractive & I Don’t Deserve Love”: Change Negative Beliefs with EMDR

I have a few Negative Beliefs . . . I did some dumb things in my teens. I backed the family car out of the driveway, into our neighbor’s car (which had exited his driveway a second ahead of mine). I waited tables at a church banquet and spilled iced tea down the back of … Continue reading “I’m unattractive & I Don’t Deserve Love”: Change Negative Beliefs with EMDR

Calm Receptive Mode: Get calm and find the good stuff inside you.

Your higher self knows how to calm you. We all want to find calm receptive mode. But not everybody wants to get a massage (although we should - there are people who can make us feel safer and less awkward). Some of us need action. We need to be out in a kayak or running … Continue reading Calm Receptive Mode: Get calm and find the good stuff inside you.

Political Despair? Focus on the Journey.

You’re safe. I’m writing to you: my Republican and Democrat and Independent friends . . . my companions on this journey. A series of conversations yesterday made me realize: We’re all stressed by the changes . . . yes, all of us. If you lean to the right . . . you see masses protesting … Continue reading Political Despair? Focus on the Journey.

Why You Need a Higher Power Right Now

  I went through a hard-core atheist phase. In my 20s. I ran from organized religion and chafed at any mention of a higher power. This was it. Just the here and now. Looking back, I wouldn’t trade that liberation for anything. Throwing off all my childhood spiritual training meant tossing the baby AND the … Continue reading Why You Need a Higher Power Right Now

Why do I want this? Skip resolutions and Go Deep instead.

My Bodysmith friends and I have been asking ourselves: Do we even want to make resolutions for 2017? Does it make sense to replay the same self-assignments, year after year? The question makes sense if you think about how New Year’s resolutions have evolved over time. From ancient Babylonia to our present civilization, people tend … Continue reading Why do I want this? Skip resolutions and Go Deep instead.

Be More Self-Centered and Save the World

What does it mean to be self centered? Your Self is your wise spiritual center. But outside this center, we live under a weighted blanket of stress and uncertainty, threatened by darkness and greed from all angles. We feel disconnected from neighbors and afraid of people on the other side of the philosophical aisle. 18% … Continue reading Be More Self-Centered and Save the World

Transform Holiday Stress into Mindful Rest & Giving

Until recently, I resented the holidays. As in, Already???? We just did this, right? Except the years when my son believed in Santa and we put together tricycles and trains, after his bedtime, under the synthetic Douglas Fir, I got a sinking anxious dread just before Thanksgiving that let up after January first. Holiday stress separated … Continue reading Transform Holiday Stress into Mindful Rest & Giving

Uber Calm in a Narcissistic World

Several years ago, I did a talk for a local GLBT advocacy group. I stood at the front of a large meeting room and talked about discrimination and ignorance, the need for education. A topic I lectured on every week in my classes. But in the middle of my presentation, not one, but two bullies, … Continue reading Uber Calm in a Narcissistic World

What Does Freedom Look Like to You?

  We hear a lot about freedom from politicians and life coaches. But freedom seems a bit vapory to me. Freedom to, what, exactly? Last week, I started asking people, What does freedom look like to you? Here are some of the answers people gave me. Having the ability and right to make decisions for myself. … Continue reading What Does Freedom Look Like to You?