Religious Trauma into Soul Healing, Part VI: Reading Good Fiction

  Lift Up & Away from Religious  Trauma Fiction (and memoir) reorganizes our internal narratives, and allows us to try on the emotional resources of others. It does this, not by selling us products or threatening us with what we MUST-do-or-be-damned, but by showing other worlds, inviting imagination. As we recover from spiritual abuse and … Continue reading Religious Trauma into Soul Healing, Part VI: Reading Good Fiction

Religious Trauma into Soul Healing, Part V: Energetic Healing

Energetic Healing = Body + Energy + Trauma Therapy As a psychology student in the 90s, I heard the message: Don't mess with spirituality. We can't measure it. It's private.  But now, a tsunami of change is sweeping the therapy world . . . and this change is spiritual. Recovering from religious abuse, we need … Continue reading Religious Trauma into Soul Healing, Part V: Energetic Healing

Our Flaws Make Us Interesting: EMDR Makes Them Funny

Maybe our flaws even make us lovable. My Flaws I have a few characteristics of which I’m not proud. Most of them fall into the category of "uptightness" . . . fear and shame and rigidity. Before EMDR, I would not have written this post for fear of public ridicule. First, I have this judgmental … Continue reading Our Flaws Make Us Interesting: EMDR Makes Them Funny

Listen to ReConceive: a Healing Podcast

  ReConceive: a Podcast about All Kinds of Healing My dear friend, Melissa Sundwall, a great therapist who also happens to be a lot younger than me, says: “Let’s do a podcast.” And I say, “What’s a podcast?” That literally happened. About a year ago. So we teamed up with Shauna Smith-Yates, owner of The … Continue reading Listen to ReConceive: a Healing Podcast

Joy Lessons from my 5-year-old Niece

Lessons from Linde I recently took a road trip with my sister and her kids. While we drove and swam and hiked and visited, I got a good dose of anti-depressant wisdom from my five-year-old niece. Linde inspires me because she is full of joy and incredibly herself: no apologies, no pretense, no matter what's … Continue reading Joy Lessons from my 5-year-old Niece

“I’m unattractive & I Don’t Deserve Love”: Change Negative Beliefs with EMDR

I have a few Negative Beliefs . . . I did some dumb things in my teens. I backed the family car out of the driveway, into our neighbor’s car (which had exited his driveway a second ahead of mine). I waited tables at a church banquet and spilled iced tea down the back of … Continue reading “I’m unattractive & I Don’t Deserve Love”: Change Negative Beliefs with EMDR

Denial, repression, and how to keep from losing your mind

I’ve always had a fear of dementia. It started on a visit to my great grandfather in the nursing home and I heard him mistake his daughter (my grandmother) for someone named Betty.  Fifteen years later, the same thing started happening to my grandmother and I watched her un-become herself over a period of six … Continue reading Denial, repression, and how to keep from losing your mind

Transition and EMDR: No such thing as a wrong turn.

  Spring brings rebirth and color and joy. It also brings pollen, tornadoes, and allergies. My life transitions like the seasons, and even though it scares the crap out of me, I know it’s a good thing. Something gets stale, stuck, or sour and I know it’s time to think differently. I get an urge … Continue reading Transition and EMDR: No such thing as a wrong turn.

Ready to Receive: A Valentine’s Mindset

I just learned something: getting more of what we want happens when we shift into the right mindset to receive . . . Receiving Mode. We want intimacy, creativity, close friendships, satisfying work, a healthy family . . . a healthy community, nation, and world. Receiving Mode allows us to draw the right people, situations, … Continue reading Ready to Receive: A Valentine’s Mindset

Be More Self-Centered and Save the World

What does it mean to be self centered? Your Self is your wise spiritual center. But outside this center, we live under a weighted blanket of stress and uncertainty, threatened by darkness and greed from all angles. We feel disconnected from neighbors and afraid of people on the other side of the philosophical aisle. 18% … Continue reading Be More Self-Centered and Save the World