What is Meditation? Meditation trains our minds to focus on the present moment, to be aware of our thoughts and feelings, and to observe our whole experience in a mindful way. It's any practice that fosters mindfulness. I've practiced daily meditation for the last year and a half, and it's changed me. In fact, I … Continue reading Moving from Religious Trauma into Soul Healing, Part II: Meditation
Spring brings rebirth and color and joy. It also brings pollen, tornadoes, and allergies. My life transitions like the seasons, and even though it scares the crap out of me, I know it’s a good thing. Something gets stale, stuck, or sour and I know it’s time to think differently. I get an urge … Continue reading Transition and EMDR: No such thing as a wrong turn.
My Bodysmith friends and I have been asking ourselves: Do we even want to make resolutions for 2017? Does it make sense to replay the same self-assignments, year after year? The question makes sense if you think about how New Year’s resolutions have evolved over time. From ancient Babylonia to our present civilization, people tend … Continue reading Why do I want this? Skip resolutions and Go Deep instead.
Artistic Abuse What is artistic abuse? Creative expression heals. Everyone has an inner artist. When we nurture the inner artist, we heal. Artistic Abuse (or Neglect) is communication (direct or indirect) that discourages, shames, or minimizes a person’s creative self-expression. Artistic abuse affects us emotionally, spiritually, and physically. Art saves lives . . . or at … Continue reading “I’m not creative.” 17 Signs of Artistic Abuse
Toxic Faith & Political Abuse Spiritual practice should calm and ground you – so you feel hopeful, refreshed, more generous, and more compassionate. Religion and philosophy should promote ever-increasing access to your wise mind or Higher Self. But some movements block connection with your inner wisdom by hammering a terrified, guilty, censoring, or rejecting … Continue reading Abusive Religion or Political Party? Toxic Faith: Part II
We hear a lot about freedom from politicians and life coaches. But freedom seems a bit vapory to me. Freedom to, what, exactly? Last week, I started asking people, What does freedom look like to you? Here are some of the answers people gave me. Having the ability and right to make decisions for myself. … Continue reading What Does Freedom Look Like to You?
I'm a Failure. If I weren’t so lazy, I’d be more financially stable. If I was a better daughter, my parents would still be together. If I were thinner, my husband would have sex with me. If I weren’t so angry, I’d have friends. If I’d worked harder in my 20s, I’d have a great … Continue reading I’m a Total Failure: Transform Multi-generational Guilt and Shame
Maturity = Self Awareness + Self Knowledge + the Courage to Engage. Watching recent TV news of the presidential race, I started thinking about maturity and how desperately we need leaders (governors, teachers, therapists, ministers, parents) who help us evolve toward enlightenment and peace. The late Edwin Friedman wrote about mature leadership and how important it … Continue reading Maturity and Leadership to Change the World
I purged my childhood belief system and started over. I ran to psychology. It explained everything, including all those simple minds who still drank the Kool-Aid. Near the end of the purging process, I said to a wise friend, “I am an atheist.” He just smiled. My friend was a retired Methodist minister, now BuddhistUniversalistQuaker…….Learner. … Continue reading What’s Your Spiritual Story? (And why it matters to your life.)
My husband keeps asking how I want to celebrate my dreaded 50th birthday. He means well. But nothing sounds quite right. A Mediterranean cruise?...No A zip line through the Rocky Mountains?...No A party with all our friends and a margarita machine?...No All I can imagine is being quiet somewhere in a remote cabin, with good … Continue reading On Turning 50: What Matters Now?