Note to Self: Write MORE that’s Real in 2018

MORE I need to write, but haven't in a while. I got a little bogged down trying to create neat, unoffensive packages of psychotherapy. I sort of lost myself, and writing became a chore. But I'm writing my way back home, thanks to a little rest and time with writerly friends. Now, my true self … Continue reading Note to Self: Write MORE that’s Real in 2018

Lessons in Relational Justice, II: Resistance = Love = Self-Respect = Vision

  Resistance is Being Fully Me Without Shame Sitting in the parking lot at a local Christian college, I wait for my son to emerge from a music festival and I observe other people and their cars. the young guy in his baseball cap, zooming behind me, not watching for children the mom in the … Continue reading Lessons in Relational Justice, II: Resistance = Love = Self-Respect = Vision

Lessons in Relational Justice, I

What is Relational Justice? I just watched Michael Moore’s (2016) film, Where to Invade Next. It's all about Relational Justice. In the two-hour movie, Moore visits eight countries to steal good ideas and bring them back to the U.S. He also raises some questions that have been with me all day. What caused our country … Continue reading Lessons in Relational Justice, I

Ready to Receive: A Valentine’s Mindset

I just learned something: getting more of what we want happens when we shift into the right mindset to receive . . . Receiving Mode. We want intimacy, creativity, close friendships, satisfying work, a healthy family . . . a healthy community, nation, and world. Receiving Mode allows us to draw the right people, situations, … Continue reading Ready to Receive: A Valentine’s Mindset

Political Despair? Focus on the Journey.

You’re safe. I’m writing to you: my Republican and Democrat and Independent friends . . . my companions on this journey. A series of conversations yesterday made me realize: We’re all stressed by the changes . . . yes, all of us. If you lean to the right . . . you see masses protesting … Continue reading Political Despair? Focus on the Journey.

Voice Medicine: Connect & Create Change

Saturday was Voice Medicine for me. Not only did I march and yell, I connected with thousands (millions) of others and said, We All Belong Here. It countered the heavy weight of worry and dread I’d been feeling for the last two and a half months (maybe longer), made me feel lighter, less alone, more powerful, … Continue reading Voice Medicine: Connect & Create Change

Why do I want this? Skip resolutions and Go Deep instead.

My Bodysmith friends and I have been asking ourselves: Do we even want to make resolutions for 2017? Does it make sense to replay the same self-assignments, year after year? The question makes sense if you think about how New Year’s resolutions have evolved over time. From ancient Babylonia to our present civilization, people tend … Continue reading Why do I want this? Skip resolutions and Go Deep instead.

Transform Holiday Stress into Mindful Rest & Giving

Until recently, I resented the holidays. As in, Already???? We just did this, right? Except the years when my son believed in Santa and we put together tricycles and trains, after his bedtime, under the synthetic Douglas Fir, I got a sinking anxious dread just before Thanksgiving that let up after January first. Holiday stress separated … Continue reading Transform Holiday Stress into Mindful Rest & Giving

Relationship Disconnect: How it affects our health.

Everyone I love needs to read these four books. The Birth of Pleasure, Carol Gilligan The Artist’s Way, Julia Cameron Proof of Heaven, Eben Alexander How Connections Heal, Maureen Walker & Wendy Rosen (Eds.) These books have all changed my life. But today, I want to focus on #4. How Connections Heal is written for … Continue reading Relationship Disconnect: How it affects our health.

Deepening our Relationships by Letting People Know Us

Yesterday, I had a conversation with friends about how we become known inside our relationships. Where and with whom can we be truly ourselves? How much do we share? What parts of ourselves do we keep hidden? Loneliness and social isolation pose serious health risks. So the question of how we share with the people around … Continue reading Deepening our Relationships by Letting People Know Us