The Anger Advantage
The Surprising Benefits of Anger and How It Can Change a Woman’s Life
Conventional wisdom tells us that anger is a dangerous emotion—and that we should do whatever we can to temper it and keep it under wraps. For women, anger is especially frowned upon: we view it as unflattering, bitchy, and a sure-fire way to sabotage our careers and relationships. But in fact, angry emotions are one of the greatest gifts we possess. As authors Deborah Cox, Sally Stabb, and Karin Bruckner show in this landmark book, when expressed openly and directly, anger can be a remarkable, positive tool for transforming women’s lives. Based on the authors’ nationally acclaimed six-year study on the links between gender and anger, The Anger Advantage offers women everywhere an entirely new paradigm for thinking about anger, and shows why diverting it is rarely the best idea. Their findings showed that women who are uncomfortable with how they are being treated at home or work, who try to hide their anger or struggle to voice tensions not only risk a host of physical ailments—such as headaches and depression—but become hostages in stagnant, unfulfilling relationships and lose touch with their own motivations and needs. In contrast, women who embrace their angry emotions and learn to express them in open, productive ways experience heightened intellectual clarity, greater self-esteem, and the passion and energy to spark life-altering change.
Clinical and Developmental Perspectives
“Women’s Anger” brings together, in an integrated presentation of anger over the lifespan, theoretical understandings, clinical experiences, empirical research, and the lived experience of anger for women and girls. “Women’s Anger” offers a combined focus of feminist and developmental perspectives on anger, the psychology of emotion, and applied theory. It also focuses on the adaptive and functional aspects of women’s anger rather than on the traditional, psychopathology-based models. The reader will be introduced to several clinical illustrations from actual clients as well as to personal accounts of women and girls talking about their own perspectives on anger.