Religious Trauma into Soul Healing, Part VI: Reading Good Fiction

  Lift Up & Away from Religious  Trauma Fiction (and memoir) reorganizes our internal narratives, and allows us to try on the emotional resources of others. It does this, not by selling us products or threatening us with what we MUST-do-or-be-damned, but by showing other worlds, inviting imagination. As we recover from spiritual abuse and … Continue reading Religious Trauma into Soul Healing, Part VI: Reading Good Fiction

Religious Trauma into Soul Healing, Part V: Energetic Healing

Energetic Healing = Body + Energy + Trauma Therapy As a psychology student in the 90s, I heard the message: Don't mess with spirituality. We can't measure it. It's private.  But now, a tsunami of change is sweeping the therapy world . . . and this change is spiritual. Recovering from religious abuse, we need … Continue reading Religious Trauma into Soul Healing, Part V: Energetic Healing

Moving from Religious Trauma into Soul Healing, Part IV: Diverse Friendships

Friends Who are Different and a Little Bit Scary Make Us Grow Unexpected friendship teaches us, like nothing else. When I arrived at Texas Woman's University in 1990, I found myself immersed in growth and diversity. I suddenly had gay and lesbian friends, after growing up in a culture that forbid same-sex relationships. (They existed, … Continue reading Moving from Religious Trauma into Soul Healing, Part IV: Diverse Friendships

Moving from Religious Trauma into Soul Healing, Part III: Beauty

Never lose an opportunity of seeing something beautiful, for beauty is God's handwriting.      -Ralph Waldo Emerson   Beauty is the basis of my spiritual discovery process. I found the Anglican church on a trip to England, back in '07, a time of big transition. My then six-year-old and I visited St. Martin in … Continue reading Moving from Religious Trauma into Soul Healing, Part III: Beauty

Moving from Religious Trauma into Soul Healing, Part II: Meditation

  What is Meditation? Meditation trains our minds to focus on the present moment, to be aware of our thoughts and feelings, and to observe our whole experience in a mindful way. It's any practice that fosters mindfulness. I've practiced daily meditation for the last year and a half, and it's changed me. In fact, I … Continue reading Moving from Religious Trauma into Soul Healing, Part II: Meditation

Moving from Religious Trauma into Soul Healing, Part I

How do we turn religious trauma into deep emotional healing? Religious trauma happens most often in movements that are fundamentalist in nature - or, "Strong Religion." In my practice, I see adults who grew up scared of sinning and going to hell or disappointing God or being shunned for some infraction or bad thought. I … Continue reading Moving from Religious Trauma into Soul Healing, Part I

Every Therapist Needs a Tribe

How do you do it? . . . . . . People often say. How can a therapist sit with people who are in pain, hour after hour, day after day, and concentrate on how to help them feel better, while keeping themselves balanced? I usually say, "Tons of self care." And that's true. To … Continue reading Every Therapist Needs a Tribe

Parenting Lesson #5093: Less is More and Letting Go

  Mindful Parenting of Teens = Letting Go If you have a child over the age of ten, you may already know this. So good for you. My friends with much older kids told me this years ago and I didn't want to hear it.                     … Continue reading Parenting Lesson #5093: Less is More and Letting Go

Our Flaws Make Us Interesting: EMDR Makes Them Funny

Maybe our flaws even make us lovable. My Flaws I have a few characteristics of which I’m not proud. Most of them fall into the category of "uptightness" . . . fear and shame and rigidity. Before EMDR, I would not have written this post for fear of public ridicule. First, I have this judgmental … Continue reading Our Flaws Make Us Interesting: EMDR Makes Them Funny

Still Recovering from Toxic Religion: Pass That Buick in Love

Here's a story about being inspired and suppressing it. This morning I got behind a slow-moving Buick on a major thoroughfare. I encountered the same dark green Buick, ten minutes before, when I was crossing a downtown street. On foot, I got up close and looked inside at three senior women - all probably in … Continue reading Still Recovering from Toxic Religion: Pass That Buick in Love